Men and women are different species and we rarely speak the same language, but when it comes to a committed partnership where you are both in it for the long haul and want it to work, we need to be able to understand each other.
If you haven't yet heard of "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman then listen up!
Every person has their own love language.
1) Words of affirmation
2) Quality time
3) Receiving gifts
4) Acts of service
5) Physical touch
To find out what yours is really think about what love language would make you feel LOVED!!!
Two or three might pop up for you but try to narrow it down to just one.
John suggests to ask yourself what do I deserve the most?
Once you have figured it out ask your partner to do the same.
Now you both have an understanding on your love language you can incorporate more of that into your lives.
For instance my love language is quality time and my husband's is words of affirmation so I love it when my hubby takes the initiative to organize a babysitter so he can take me out on a romantic picnic just the two of us and he appreciates it when I say things like "I appreciate how hard you work to provide for us or "I love when you take the boys to the beach so I can relax, Thank you."
Understanding what each other's needs are is so important for any relationship.
Us women have a tendency to expect our men to just know what we want but they don't, so let's help them out and articulate to them what those needs are.
Saying "Babe I love it when you run your hands through my hair" tells him that you dig it and the more chances he'll do it again.
Speak up and don't be shy, I used to be and I'm slowly voicing my needs and wants.
Men find it very sexy and would rather know so they can please you exactly the way you want it!
Try practicing an act of love to your spouse everyday whatever their love language is and watch your relationship grow.
Have regular chats to each other about how each feels so you stay connected and in tune with each other.
Communication is the key to any successful partnership and one that will last a lifetime and I'm not saying mine is perfect, a marriage is a work in progress and we are on our journey of discovering what works best for us.
Communication has been a big issue in our relationship but we are aware of this and and we are working towards changing that.
Find what works for you and this may just be it!!!
When you feel that love and give love and you are happy in your relationship everything in life just falls into place and flows.....
Happy connecting...
Lots of love
Phoebe xx
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